Thursday, February 19, 2009

Happiness is the way

I didn' t want to convert this blog of thoughts that were not mine, but I found again a beautiful text that I want to remember forever. The only thing that I want to say is : Be happy today, and do not wait until tomorrow.

HAPPINESS IS A JOURNEY

We convince ourselves that life will be better after
we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough
and we'll be more content when they are.

After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with.
We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our
spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer
car, are able to go on a nice vacation,or when we retire.
The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.

There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have.
And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special.
And remember that time waits for no one.
So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school,
Until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds,
Until you have kids, until your kids leave the house,
Until you start work, Until you retire,
Until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night,
Until Saturday morning, until you get a new car or home,
Until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer ,
Until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth,
Until your song comes on, until you've had a drink,
Until you've sobered up, until you die, until you are born again,
To decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy
Happiness is a journey, not a destination

Work like you don't need the money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one's watching.

~author unknown~

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Los 4 acuerdos

La primera vez que escuché acerca de los cuatro acuerdos fue en un curso de liderazgo. La persona que nos estaba dando una de las pláticas nos recomendó que leyéramos el libro "Los cuatro Acuerdos". Algún tiempo después tuve la oportunidad de empezar a leer el libro, pero ¡oh desgracia! No lo seguí leyendo porque la forma en como se encuentra redactado me fue no del todo convincente, bueno el caso es que no lo seguí leyendo. Algún tiempo después alguien me mando un mail con el título "Los cuatro acuerdos" y recordé aquella plática, el libro, cómo intente empezar a leer el libro pero no pude. Total que abrí la presentación y me encontré con los maravillosos cuatro acuerdos. Me ha gustado tanto la presentación que a lo mejor intento leer el libro algún día. Y no quiero que se hagan malas ideas del libro, mejor prueben por ustedes mismos y tal vez me recomendaran retomar la lectura.

Se le llama "cuatro acuerdos" a cuatro compromisos que todos deberíamos tener con nuestra propia persona si es que buscamos la felicidad en nuestras vidas. Muchas personas son muy sabias y jamás han escuchado sobre los cuatro acuerdos pero los aplican cotidianamente. A otros, como a mí nos hace falta que nos hagan un recordatorio de los compromisos que nos pueden llevar a ser más libres y a actuar con mayor plenitud en nuestras vidas. Aquí dejo los cuatro acuerdos para mí a ver si de esa manera los aplico y si a alguien también le funcionan, le comparto.


Título del libro: Los cuatro Acuerdos (Un libro de sabiduría Tolteca)
Autor: Miguel Ruíz
Editorial Urano

LOS CUATRO ACUERDOS

1. Sé impecable con tus palabras
Es el más importante y más difícil de cumplir porque muchas veces nos es imposible controlar las palabras que salen de nuestra boca. Lo que sale de tu boca es lo que eres tú. Si no honras tus palabras no te estas honrando a ti mismo; y si no te honras a ti mismo, no te amas. Honrar tus palabras es ser coherente con lo que piensas y con lo que haces. El ser auténtico, te hace respetable ante los demás y ante ti mismo

2. No te tomes nada personalmente
Ni la peor OFENSA, ni el peor DESAIRE, ni la más grave herida. En la medida que alguien te quiere lastimar en esa medida ese alguien se lastima así mismo. Pero el problema es de él y no tuyo.

3. No hagas suposiciones
No des nada por supuesto, si tienes una duda aclárala. Si sospechas, pregunta. Suponer te hace inventar historias increíbles que sólo envenenan tu alma y que no tienen fundamento.

4. Haz siempre lo máximo que puedas
Si siempre haces lo mejor que puedas nunca podrás recriminarte ni arrepentirte de nada.

You are one in a million


Everybody wants to have good friends, but do you really know how good friends are? And much more than that... Are you a good one? I took some minutes to think about "friends", then I concluded that for me the three most important characteristics in a good friend are: loyal, understanding, and giving. Why did I choose these three characteristics? It was because the word loyal include an entire form of life, an understanding person will try to be careful with the feelings or emotions of a friend, and a giving person will try to enjoy with others the good things of his own life.

By definition a loyal persons is someone who follows the rules of the honor, honesty, integrity and faithfulness. I like when people is loyal because that means that it is a coherent person between his words and his facts. Honesty means that you don't lie, and that you try to say alwasy the true. I don't want you to be confused between the word honesty and frankness. A frank person can hurt others with the true said by harsh words, but a honest person is candid, natural and simple with a modest way to tell you the truth. A good friend is honest with himself and the others. A good friend doesn't lie or beguile to his friends because he knows that the true is always the best. He knows that lies or even silence hurt the heart of the friends. A good friend won't tell you that you are right when it is evident that the reality is different. Friends understand the value of the faithfulness which means to rule out hypocrisy. Loyalty is a word that should be kept in the heart of all humans. A loyal person is faith with his own values and with the values of their friends. A loyal person is mindful and discreet about the things he knows shouldn't be told to the others.

Besides, an understanding persons is someone who is sympathetic and tolerant. Not all people have the same ideas and opinions, so tolerance is a value that make us understand that the richness is in the variety. A good friend understands that a difference in the opinions will not destroy a friendship. Nobody is perfect, so we need a good amount of tolerance if we want to have good friends. A simpathetic person is someone who cares about the lives of his friends, and someone who will try to help his friends if they are in problems. To be simpathetic imply to have empathy which is the virtue that make us sensitive to the emotions or problems of our friends.

Furthermore, a giving person is someone inclined to share. I am not talking about sharing material things, but I am talking about opinions, emotions, ideas, knowledge, time, own friends, et cetera. A person who is only worried about himself has not understood the value of frienship. A real friend try to involve you in the best amosphere he has been or lived. A stingy person doesn't even have a smile to share, so he won't be a good friend.

For a friend you will be one in a million, and nobody will replace you. Our hearts expands when we are with friends, and we become happier than ever because friendship is one of the best things of this world. Finally I will say that you should always offer at least the last three characteristics in your friendships, and don't worry if the others don't do the same. Think that someday we will die, and that you will wish had done the best in your friendships. Here, I remember a song that says: "You give a little love, and it all comes back to you." You don't know how or when but the love you give it will return to you somehow augmented.

"Time is very slow for those who wait
very fast for those who are scared
very long for those who lament
very short for those who celebrate
but for those who love time is eternal"
William Shakespeare